Everyone experiences fear. Fear is part of our biology. It’s that “fight or flight” response that saved our ancestors’ lives time and again. But for us modern humans, we’re no longer faced with life endangering events on a daily basis, and so this biological function has begun creating problems. Fear can protect us from harm by sending a rush of adrenaline to help us physically deal with potential danger. But there are times when fear may keep us from participating fully in life. Once we realize that fear is a state of mind, we can choose to face our fears, change our minds, and create the life we want to live.
Our minds are very powerful. Choosing a fear response is a common experience…and one we can look at and change, and better our lives.
Our minds are powerful tools to be used by our higher selves; similar to computers, storing and using data to make certain connections between thought and response is an inherent trait of what our minds do. We have the ability to observe these responses and choose differently. No matter where the fear came from, we can create new connections by choosing new and different thoughts instead of falling back on conditioned and learned responses. When our souls and minds are in alignment, we create a new experience of reality. This journey requires many small steps, as well as patience and courage through the process.
Here’s an example: You decide to overcome your fear of driving on the freeway. Your plan of action starts with examining your thoughts and finding a new way of seeing the situation. When you’re ready, you enlist a calm companion to support you as you take the first step of merging into the slow lane and using the first exit. Your heart may be racing, but your confidence will be boosted by the accomplishment. Repeat this until you are comfortable, with or without help, and then drive one exit furth! er. When you are ready, you can try driving in the middle lane, for longer periods each time, until you find yourself going where you want to go. This gradual process is similar for conquering any fear, but if you find it overwhelming, you can always seek the help of a professional.
You may think you are the only one with a particular fear, that nobody else could possibly be scared of ordinary things such as water, heights, public speaking, crowds or flying. These types of fears are very common, and you can have great success overcoming them. Remember, it is not the absence of the fear but the courage to take action anyway that determines success. When we learn to face and understand our fears, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings but not be ruled by them. Instead we choose how to shape the lives we want.